Hi girls,
Don't really post in here butneed a bit of advice or reassurance. I have to leave my LO with MIL tomorrow night as i have to go to an event thing that my Parents want me to go to. It wil be the first time OH's parents will be minding him by themselves and i'm so anxious. I just don't feel like she is clean enough or fussy enough and they only see LO every 3-4 weeks so he's not 100% comfortable with them even with us around. I'm dreading the thought of him being in her hands for several hours. I wish i could just bring him with me but i can't. I intended to drop him over to them a few times in the past few weeks to get him used to being with them on his own but i couldnt bring myself to do it as i don't want someone else looking after him and now its tomorrow and i'm freaking out. Anyone else like this? Wish I didn't have to go. I swear if she lets anything happen to him i'm won't be responsible for my actions. He's 16 months so quite active so u have to be really on the ball, but i swear if i come back to her and he's a bump on his head or hurt himself i really will be giving her a piece of my mind. I'm so scared. I can see myself in tears tomorrow evening when OH brings him over to them tomorrow evening. This situation has never arose before as normally i have my mum or my sister who are available to mind him but they are coming with me tomorrow night too so i really have no one elsei can ask.

I think you need to relax a bit - you are already getting worked up about bumps on his head etc and what you will 'do' to the poor woman if something happens - accidents happen and I am fairly sure that there are very many 16 months olds that knock themselves quite often, my 11 month old certainly does and she cant even walk yet.

I agree with above plus with you being pregnant in a few months youll be thanking your MIL for taking your LO

I can understand your worry but you will get yourself in a state and your LO will surely pick up on your stress levels.
Take solace in the fact that your mil has had children of her own as so is not completely incapable of taking care of a toddler.
You have to be strong x

i would feel exactly the same hun i have not left my lo with 'inlaws' yet and dont intend to for a while other people may feel its irrational but you cant help how you feel your child is the most precious thing to you and if you dont trust someone 100% its very difficult to leave your child with them even if you know deep down they would never intentionaly put your child in any danger and everything would probably be perfectly fine try to enjoy your evening hun although if your like me i doubt you will be able to relax totally but try

Thanks girls you are so understanding. Its just im so so attached to him and the thoughts of not having him round me freaks me out. OH took him over to MIL's today for 5 hours (OH stayed with them tho) because i had some serious college work to do and i found myself pining for him to come back. just kept looking at his empty cot and feeling sad. he's back here beside me and the relief is crazy, just to know he's safe. I've got worse recently i think, got much more attached to him but so has he, he looks for me alot lately as he know im his mummy. i dunno i know some people want a break from their kids sometimes but doesn't really happen to me.

My LO is a lot younger than yours but I know exactly how you feel!! Everytime I see my MIL holding Ben I just want to run over and snatch him off her!

Unfortunately I've been in hospital 3 times in the past 2 weeks and my OH has let her baby sit on her own as he was starting to lose the plot being on his own with Ben for 4 days!!! The decision was taken out of my hands and there's nothing I can do. I just have to push the irrational thoughts to the back of my mind and tell myself it'll all be ok.

Aw, I'm sure he'll be fine. Finn always has a bump on his head or other, he's a busy bee and always crashing into things.

Your in laws will never look after your LO as well as you. And will never do it to the level your own family will, but here is the thing - they will do it well enough. If he gets into a bump, so he gets into a bump. He's going to do that when you are looking after him, what would you "do" to yourself in that case? Or your own family?

They are his grandparents and have obviously brought up your OH well enough for you to want to be with him so they can't be terrible people. If their house isn't clean enough, a little dirt wont hurt once in a while.

It sounds like your issue is more with leaving him than just leaving him with In laws. But much as we love our children, we have to get used to someone else looking after them eventually.

I guess it depends on the children. If you had a lo who was always demanding attention, throwing tantrums and wrecking the place, you'd maybe be glad of a break every now and then!

I left my lo with my DH parents last week they had been offering for ages and as my family live ages away I was completely bogged down so I took them up on the offer and its the best thing I did. I suppose what u have 2 think of they are u oh parents and they did a good job with rasing him, no matter how long ago.

Aaliyah missed me but was not screming her dad picked her up 5 hours later. she is going again every week now. the good thing is now I have someone i trust and aaliyah does not get 2 dependant on me being around which makes her alot easier 2 watch when she is older iykwim it will be tough but she will be fine im sure