IF god forbid something happened to both me and OH who would look after are LO? - Page 2

New2Bumps · Jan 16th, 2010, 11:43 AM

If you write down your wishes and sign it then even though it wouldn't be legally binding (or would it, if it was signed and whitnessed by 2 ppl?) then family members would still abide by it. This might be something you want to do in the interim, until you get the will?

AtomicPink · Jan 16th, 2010, 12:49 PM

my best friend. honestly. i trust her more.

maryam · Jan 16th, 2010, 13:38 PM

what if someone contests the will??

Pyrrhic · Jan 16th, 2010, 13:40 PM

It's nothing to do with godparents, or Christening

Godparents are there to guide your child in their spiritual well-being. A long time ago they would be next of kin, but not anymore.

Named guardians are people who would take your child in the event of your death.

If you have a will, just right down who you would want to be the guardians of your child.

For me I'm not sure yet. I don't really like the idea of either sets of parents having Nim, and my sister is too young.

topcat · Jan 16th, 2010, 14:17 PM

We got our will updated to state who we'd like to be guardians if anything happened to us. It also meant we could ensure our LO would be guaranteed to have money put aside for her until she was older. Our lawyer drafted it up and we just confirmed we were happy with the details. We've now got peace of mind that should anything happen, we've got LO with the people we want, raising her safely and in a happy home.
It's all very morbid I know, brought a tear to my eye at one point! (over emotional mother....)

Mummy~L · Jan 16th, 2010, 17:19 PM

Put it in your Will x

Kayleigh09 · Jan 16th, 2010, 18:00 PM

The people we have as godparents wouldnt be first in line to look after Summer so i'd hope it doesnt work that way lol. I think the baby would go into the care of social services whilst they speak with family members ie, grandparents, aunties/uncles etc to see which are best suited to look after the child and also who would want to look after them in the first place.

I think something can be put into the will but wouldnt be legally binding.

Rachel_C · Jan 16th, 2010, 19:38 PM

I wonder about this too, especially as we live very near my OH's family but a hours away from my family but I'd want LO to go to my family - either my mum or one of my sisters. My OH has said that he'd be ok with Leyla going to my family, but I don't think he's really taking the issue seriously. It's one thing us saying that to each other but we do need to get something sorted legally, though whether OH would commit what he said to writing I don't know.

Lisa1302 · Jan 16th, 2010, 20:11 PM

Legally you can appoint guardians, as far as I know unless the law has changed since 2007 (in the UK, I don't know in the US)

It is a simple thing to do, part of the childrens act allows for this - no need for a will, however obviously it is best to in order to sort out financial things for the child/guardians

http://www.willpack.co.uk/pdf/Leaf_ParentResp.pdf

http://www.opsi.gov.uk/ACTS/acts1989..._19890041_en_2

obviously at the end of the day that guardian doesnt have to take on that responsibility if they choose not to if the time came!!!

Sherileigh · Jan 16th, 2010, 20:19 PM

My sister will do it. Bless her, she already has 2 kids and just seperated from her husband and we mentioned it and she said 'well you'd better be giving them to me!' lol. I'm on her will if anything happens to her. We just have to get wills done up, OH and I, hers is done. I would hate to think of his family raising my son. Yuck!

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New2Bumps Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: England Posts: 3,839	If you write down your wishes and sign it then even though it wouldn't be legally binding (or would it, if it was signed and whitnessed by 2 ppl?) then family members would still abide by it. This might be something you want to do in the interim, until you get the will?

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Pyrrhic Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 14,567	It's nothing to do with godparents, or Christening Godparents are there to guide your child in their spiritual well-being. A long time ago they would be next of kin, but not anymore. Named guardians are people who would take your child in the event of your death. If you have a will, just right down who you would want to be the guardians of your child. For me I'm not sure yet. I don't really like the idea of either sets of parents having Nim, and my sister is too young.

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topcat Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Scotland/Germany Posts: 124	We got our will updated to state who we'd like to be guardians if anything happened to us. It also meant we could ensure our LO would be guaranteed to have money put aside for her until she was older. Our lawyer drafted it up and we just confirmed we were happy with the details. We've now got peace of mind that should anything happen, we've got LO with the people we want, raising her safely and in a happy home. It's all very morbid I know, brought a tear to my eye at one point! (over emotional mother....)

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Mummy~L Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 3,365	Put it in your Will x

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Kayleigh09 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Somerset, UK Posts: 866	The people we have as godparents wouldnt be first in line to look after Summer so i'd hope it doesnt work that way lol. I think the baby would go into the care of social services whilst they speak with family members ie, grandparents, aunties/uncles etc to see which are best suited to look after the child and also who would want to look after them in the first place. I think something can be put into the will but wouldnt be legally binding.

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Rachel_C Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 6,839	I wonder about this too, especially as we live very near my OH's family but a hours away from my family but I'd want LO to go to my family - either my mum or one of my sisters. My OH has said that he'd be ok with Leyla going to my family, but I don't think he's really taking the issue seriously. It's one thing us saying that to each other but we do need to get something sorted legally, though whether OH would commit what he said to writing I don't know.

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Jan 16th, 2010, 20:11 PM	#19
Lisa1302 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Shropshire, UK Posts: 2,384	Legally you can appoint guardians, as far as I know unless the law has changed since 2007 (in the UK, I don't know in the US) It is a simple thing to do, part of the childrens act allows for this - no need for a will, however obviously it is best to in order to sort out financial things for the child/guardians http://www.willpack.co.uk/pdf/Leaf_ParentResp.pdf http://www.opsi.gov.uk/ACTS/acts1989..._19890041_en_2 obviously at the end of the day that guardian doesnt have to take on that responsibility if they choose not to if the time came!!!

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Jan 16th, 2010, 20:19 PM	#20
Sherileigh Other BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 4,451	My sister will do it. Bless her, she already has 2 kids and just seperated from her husband and we mentioned it and she said 'well you'd better be giving them to me!' lol. I'm on her will if anything happens to her. We just have to get wills done up, OH and I, hers is done. I would hate to think of his family raising my son. Yuck!

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