Drinks on playdates...

nkbapbt · Nov 22nd, 2009, 03:16 AM

I was just reading my "Parents" magazine and there is an article about moms getting together for playdates and having cocktails while doing so. To the point that there are actual "mom" related drinks names, like Momtinis...

Im just curious what other moms think, is this ok? Is this not ok?

They are not saying "get drunk" but drinking while you are having a playdate...

I personally do not think it's alright. I do however think it's ok to have a couple glasses of wine when your baby is down for the night and you are safely bf'ing or ff'ing. NOT getting drunk! Just having a glass or two, but of course only when your OH is not drinking.

What do you think? Is drinking when baby is home ever ok? And if so when? And if not, why not?

// arcadia · Nov 22nd, 2009, 03:21 AM

Swings and roundabouts some moms will go out have 1/2 drinks be sensible with it and it doesnt affect them, there are some moms who's sole purpose is actually getting drunk, depends doesnt it.

When i was 18 i worked in a pub and there was this woman who was 30 if even that late 20's she had 4 kids the youngest about 18 months and only lived down the road she was always in the pub scrounging drinks .. her kids used to come to the door and ask where was mommy .. it was awful.

Ive gone to lunches with friends with my daughter and had the odd martini or glass of wine, i don't think i should be judged for that.

Laura--x · Nov 22nd, 2009, 03:35 AM

I dont see whats wrong with having a few drinks, people know they're limits. Aslong as they stick to that, whats wrong with having a friendly drink?

Although saying that, i probably wouldnt do it myself.

Lu28 · Nov 22nd, 2009, 03:56 AM

If we've been out for lunch, I've had a glass of wine or two. That's more having a drink with a meal though, I couldn't imagine doing something kiddie orientated without the food and actively planning on having a drink. The two just don't naturally fit together for me! But I think most of us are sensible and would never go over our limits anyway.

Scally · Nov 22nd, 2009, 03:58 AM

I darent have any drink, i havent drunk at all since before i was pregnant, so after one i'll be on the floor!!!! lol

Faerie · Nov 22nd, 2009, 04:17 AM

Tough one! When our babies were about 6 weeks old my NCT friends and I had a picnic in the park and my DH surprised us with a jug of Pimms because we'd all been going on about it whilst pregnant! There was enough for one small glass each, and it wasn't strong. Especially with such a young baby I wouldn't want more.

I sometimes drink when DH is home. When I say drink I mean a small glass of something, anymore and I'd be drunk these days anyway! DH doesn't really drink either. I'm happy having a drink with a meal when out too.

Sooo, yes, I guess I'm ok with it, as long as you know you're with a group of people who are all of the same mindset if you know what I mean? I would be mightily pissed off if a mum (or dad) got really drunk at something. I don't know if I'd have "playdates" with alcohol, but certainly a bbq with other families and I guess it's not much different.

Sorry for the ramble!

kirsten1985 · Nov 22nd, 2009, 04:51 AM

I wouldn't drink, I don't think. I think it depends who is there. If my DH was there I would only want one of us to be drinking (even if it was only one drink, as I haven't had one since before I got preg and he doesn't really drink anyway, so one is enough!) so that one of us is completely and utterly sober all the time.

I wouldn't drink on a playdate, like others said, the two don't go together in my head.

Lois · Nov 22nd, 2009, 05:43 AM

The drinks in the magazine weren't mocktails were they? It seems strange for a magazine to encourage an association between drinking and childcare doesn't it?! I think one alcoholic drink is no problem but I wouldn't have more than that as it would make me clumsier and less likely to make good decisions.

I was told by my antenatal teacher that one of the main reasons that the department of health discourages drinking while breastfeeding is because of the mother's lesser ability to care for the child properly (particularly increased likelihood of falling into a deep sleep while child is feeding) and that this is actually a bigger concern than alcohol being passed to the baby via breastmilk.

Lx

Kitten · Nov 22nd, 2009, 05:44 AM

Mmm I wouldn't get drunk but I'd have a drink. One of my friends had a 2year old and a 4year old and me and another girl and her 5 year old would go round to her house on a Friday night and get drunk and they'd both get stoned! However, we were always aware of the kids and I was dieting and my hubby hated me being drunk so I tended to hold back a bit so I knew at least one of us was on the ball in case something happened. Once Theakston's weaned, if I do decide to get plastered or have more than one drink then I'll make sure hubby looks after him as I'd be scared of dropping him or something.

I certainly don't think drinks and playdates go together but if me & my mummy friends & babies were to go out for lunch for one of our birthdays or something I'd probably have a beer.

Blah11 · Nov 22nd, 2009, 06:45 AM

Rae you sure the weren't alcohol free? I think its a bit irresponsible drinking alcohol when you're looking after a baby. You wouldn't stand for a childminder having half a glass of wine when looking after your LO so why should you?

Nov 22nd, 2009, 03:16 AM	#1
nkbapbt Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: North Vancouver, B.C. Posts: 3,771	Drinks on playdates... I was just reading my "Parents" magazine and there is an article about moms getting together for playdates and having cocktails while doing so. To the point that there are actual "mom" related drinks names, like Momtinis... Im just curious what other moms think, is this ok? Is this not ok? They are not saying "get drunk" but drinking while you are having a playdate... I personally do not think it's alright. I do however think it's ok to have a couple glasses of wine when your baby is down for the night and you are safely bf'ing or ff'ing. NOT getting drunk! Just having a glass or two, but of course only when your OH is not drinking. What do you think? Is drinking when baby is home ever ok? And if so when? And if not, why not?

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Nov 22nd, 2009, 03:21 AM	#2
// arcadia Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: England Posts: 1,677	Swings and roundabouts some moms will go out have 1/2 drinks be sensible with it and it doesnt affect them, there are some moms who's sole purpose is actually getting drunk, depends doesnt it. When i was 18 i worked in a pub and there was this woman who was 30 if even that late 20's she had 4 kids the youngest about 18 months and only lived down the road she was always in the pub scrounging drinks .. her kids used to come to the door and ask where was mommy .. it was awful. Ive gone to lunches with friends with my daughter and had the odd martini or glass of wine, i don't think i should be judged for that.

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Nov 22nd, 2009, 03:35 AM	#3
Laura--x Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: England Posts: 8,782	I dont see whats wrong with having a few drinks, people know they're limits. Aslong as they stick to that, whats wrong with having a friendly drink? Although saying that, i probably wouldnt do it myself.

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Lu28 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Dublin, Ireland Posts: 12,639	If we've been out for lunch, I've had a glass of wine or two. That's more having a drink with a meal though, I couldn't imagine doing something kiddie orientated without the food and actively planning on having a drink. The two just don't naturally fit together for me! But I think most of us are sensible and would never go over our limits anyway.
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Scally Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Essex Posts: 4,089	I darent have any drink, i havent drunk at all since before i was pregnant, so after one i'll be on the floor!!!! lol

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Faerie Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Alsace, France (and Basel, Switzerland) Posts: 5,527	Tough one! When our babies were about 6 weeks old my NCT friends and I had a picnic in the park and my DH surprised us with a jug of Pimms because we'd all been going on about it whilst pregnant! There was enough for one small glass each, and it wasn't strong. Especially with such a young baby I wouldn't want more. I sometimes drink when DH is home. When I say drink I mean a small glass of something, anymore and I'd be drunk these days anyway! DH doesn't really drink either. I'm happy having a drink with a meal when out too. Sooo, yes, I guess I'm ok with it, as long as you know you're with a group of people who are all of the same mindset if you know what I mean? I would be mightily pissed off if a mum (or dad) got really drunk at something. I don't know if I'd have "playdates" with alcohol, but certainly a bbq with other families and I guess it's not much different. Sorry for the ramble!

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Nov 22nd, 2009, 04:51 AM	#7
kirsten1985 Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Alfreton, Derbyshire. Posts: 4,215	I wouldn't drink, I don't think. I think it depends who is there. If my DH was there I would only want one of us to be drinking (even if it was only one drink, as I haven't had one since before I got preg and he doesn't really drink anyway, so one is enough!) so that one of us is completely and utterly sober all the time. I wouldn't drink on a playdate, like others said, the two don't go together in my head.

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Lois Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Warwickshire Posts: 1,630	The drinks in the magazine weren't mocktails were they? It seems strange for a magazine to encourage an association between drinking and childcare doesn't it?! I think one alcoholic drink is no problem but I wouldn't have more than that as it would make me clumsier and less likely to make good decisions. I was told by my antenatal teacher that one of the main reasons that the department of health discourages drinking while breastfeeding is because of the mother's lesser ability to care for the child properly (particularly increased likelihood of falling into a deep sleep while child is feeding) and that this is actually a bigger concern than alcohol being passed to the baby via breastmilk. Lx

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Kitten Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Crawley, England Posts: 6,343	Mmm I wouldn't get drunk but I'd have a drink. One of my friends had a 2year old and a 4year old and me and another girl and her 5 year old would go round to her house on a Friday night and get drunk and they'd both get stoned! However, we were always aware of the kids and I was dieting and my hubby hated me being drunk so I tended to hold back a bit so I knew at least one of us was on the ball in case something happened. Once Theakston's weaned, if I do decide to get plastered or have more than one drink then I'll make sure hubby looks after him as I'd be scared of dropping him or something. I certainly don't think drinks and playdates go together but if me & my mummy friends & babies were to go out for lunch for one of our birthdays or something I'd probably have a beer.

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Blah11 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 32,823	Rae you sure the weren't alcohol free? I think its a bit irresponsible drinking alcohol when you're looking after a baby. You wouldn't stand for a childminder having half a glass of wine when looking after your LO so why should you?

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