Drinks on playdates - Page 3

princess_bump · Nov 22nd, 2009, 13:33 PM

i have to say, i find drinking on a playdate slightly irresponsible if i'm honest. i personally don't agree with it, each to the individual but i wouldn't do it when taking my daughter out to socialise with our friends

jennie_78 · Nov 22nd, 2009, 13:35 PM

I couldnt have a drink on a playdate. I dont like alcohol around children, except in special circumstances such as weddings, but then id only have 1 if OH wasnt.

Kit · Nov 22nd, 2009, 16:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Blah11

Rae you sure the weren't alcohol free? I think its a bit irresponsible drinking alcohol when you're looking after a baby. You wouldn't stand for a childminder having half a glass of wine when looking after your LO so why should you?

First of all no employer would stand for an employee drinking whilst at work and secondly having a glass of wine with your OH at dinner or going to a christening/wedding/any event and having a glass or 2 is hardly getting drunk is it or being irresponsible some of you on here make me laugh.

I don't think there is anything wrong with what Blah11 posted - it's one of those issues that people are quite divided on. My initial instinct was that one drink would be fine in those circumstances but the childminder point is quite interesting - yes, you are quite right - I would be annoyed if I found out that the childminder had had a glass of wine while caring for my child which makes me think that there clearly is something uncomfortable about the idea of drinking during the day while caring for a baby. I think, for me, there is a difference between having a glass or two of wine in the evening at home when the baby is asleep and you are having some grown-up time and having a drink when you are doing something that is , or should be, baby-focussed.
It's a moot point for me anyway - if I drank even a quarter glass during the day I wouldn't be able to see straight!

Jkelmum · Nov 22nd, 2009, 16:55 PM

Hmmm well watch me get shot

There as been occasions where i have met my mum friends for lunch with the kids and we have a glass or two of wine ...Do i think its irresponseable hmm no ..at end of day i know my limits i dont drive and 2 glasses of wine would be with food over along period of time ...But I wouldnt call it a playdate either

just a few mums with kids going for a nice lunch where the kids can play and imo no harm whats so ever !

moomin_troll · Nov 22nd, 2009, 16:59 PM

this gets me how still people are saying its irresponceable to drink in the day/ on playdates but still say they will have only one drink of a evening.

day or night there is no difference if u think its not right to drink in the day infront of ur child then its no better to drink while ur childs in bed at night

nkbapbt · Nov 22nd, 2009, 17:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Lois

The drinks in the magazine weren't mocktails were they? It seems strange for a magazine to encourage an association between drinking and childcare doesn't it?! I think one alcoholic drink is no problem but I wouldn't have more than that as it would make me clumsier and less likely to make good decisions.

I was told by my antenatal teacher that one of the main reasons that the department of health discourages drinking while breastfeeding is because of the mother's lesser ability to care for the child properly (particularly increased likelihood of falling into a deep sleep while child is feeding) and that this is actually a bigger concern than alcohol being passed to the baby via breastmilk.

Lx

No they werent mocktails! I was shocked too.

Mum2b_Claire · Nov 22nd, 2009, 17:08 PM

I tend to have one drink when Ruby is in bed. I don't see it as irresponsible at all and am quite irritated to discover that some people think it is! I enjoy wine with my evening meal and never, ever get even slightly drunk. I mean, I'm still legal to drive, so my judgement is hardly impaired.

purple_socks · Nov 22nd, 2009, 17:12 PM

this is very similar to another thread a while back abt drinking in the evenings with LO in the house.
i personally don't have a problem drinking with LO around...i can't imagine ever doing it during a play date because i think thats more abt playing with ur LOs but i've had BBQs/dinners/gone to weddings/ been out for lunch etc and have had drinks even tho LO has been with us. i think its all abt what ur comfortable with, knowing ur limits and judging each different circumstance at the time.

**Vickie** · Nov 22nd, 2009, 17:15 PM

For me it's a to each their own thing really. It's not something I would do but than again I don't drink much in general (had an alcoholic father). It'd be one thing if these women were getting drunk and were not able to take care of their children safely but I highly doubt that one drink is going to cause harm.

tasha41 · Nov 23rd, 2009, 00:04 AM

For me, I will drink with dinner even though I have to care for Elyse - 1 or 2 beers or 1 or 2 glasses of wine with food I can handle. I don't think that drinking on playdates is a problem unless you are:

a) getting together to have cocktails w/ your girlfriends during the day under the erm guise of having a playdate

b) hanging out with the girls (even if you're not drinking) if it will cause you to pay less attention to the kids - IMO, a playdate should be the moms playing with the babies or sitting right there with them, not lounging around with cocktails and chatting while the kids play unattended

c) ... obviously, going over your limit!

I won't be having any cocktail party playdates because for some reason I can't reasonably drink more than one drink and not get a raging headache or start to feel a buzz (talking cocktails not beer/wine).

Nov 22nd, 2009, 13:33 PM	#21
princess_bump Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: England Posts: 31,450	i have to say, i find drinking on a playdate slightly irresponsible if i'm honest. i personally don't agree with it, each to the individual but i wouldn't do it when taking my daughter out to socialise with our friends

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Nov 22nd, 2009, 13:35 PM	#22
jennie_78 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 1,623	I couldnt have a drink on a playdate. I dont like alcohol around children, except in special circumstances such as weddings, but then id only have 1 if OH wasnt.

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Nov 22nd, 2009, 16:55 PM	#24
Jkelmum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In my own bubble Posts: 17,574	Hmmm well watch me get shot There as been occasions where i have met my mum friends for lunch with the kids and we have a glass or two of wine ...Do i think its irresponseable hmm no ..at end of day i know my limits i dont drive and 2 glasses of wine would be with food over along period of time ...But I wouldnt call it a playdate either just a few mums with kids going for a nice lunch where the kids can play and imo no harm whats so ever !

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Nov 22nd, 2009, 16:59 PM	#25
moomin_troll Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: staffordshire Posts: 14,583	this gets me how still people are saying its irresponceable to drink in the day/ on playdates but still say they will have only one drink of a evening. day or night there is no difference if u think its not right to drink in the day infront of ur child then its no better to drink while ur childs in bed at night

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Nov 22nd, 2009, 17:08 PM	#27
Mum2b_Claire Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Kent Posts: 13,905	I tend to have one drink when Ruby is in bed. I don't see it as irresponsible at all and am quite irritated to discover that some people think it is! I enjoy wine with my evening meal and never, ever get even slightly drunk. I mean, I'm still legal to drive, so my judgement is hardly impaired.

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Nov 22nd, 2009, 17:12 PM	#28
purple_socks Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,978	this is very similar to another thread a while back abt drinking in the evenings with LO in the house. i personally don't have a problem drinking with LO around...i can't imagine ever doing it during a play date because i think thats more abt playing with ur LOs but i've had BBQs/dinners/gone to weddings/ been out for lunch etc and have had drinks even tho LO has been with us. i think its all abt what ur comfortable with, knowing ur limits and judging each different circumstance at the time.

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Nov 22nd, 2009, 17:15 PM	#29
Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 75,678	For me it's a to each their own thing really. It's not something I would do but than again I don't drink much in general (had an alcoholic father). It'd be one thing if these women were getting drunk and were not able to take care of their children safely but I highly doubt that one drink is going to cause harm.

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Nov 23rd, 2009, 00:04 AM	#30
tasha41 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Hamilton, Canada Posts: 23,921	For me, I will drink with dinner even though I have to care for Elyse - 1 or 2 beers or 1 or 2 glasses of wine with food I can handle. I don't think that drinking on playdates is a problem unless you are: a) getting together to have cocktails w/ your girlfriends during the day under the erm guise of having a playdate b) hanging out with the girls (even if you're not drinking) if it will cause you to pay less attention to the kids - IMO, a playdate should be the moms playing with the babies or sitting right there with them, not lounging around with cocktails and chatting while the kids play unattended c) ... obviously, going over your limit! I won't be having any cocktail party playdates because for some reason I can't reasonably drink more than one drink and not get a raging headache or start to feel a buzz (talking cocktails not beer/wine).

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