i dont see the difference in how u can think its ok for afew drinks while los asleep but its not alright while child is up and on a playdate.

if its afew drinks and ur not getting drunk and u have time to walk it off after the playdate i think thats better then drinking at the night.

when ive gone out with other mums ive always drank soft drinks anyway but i love the idea of mummy cocktails

i read the article, intersting reading although not for me

http://parenting.ivillage.com/mom/0,,b48r29j7,00.html

First of all no employer would stand for an employee drinking whilst at work and secondly having a glass of wine with your OH at dinner or going to a christening/wedding/any event and having a glass or 2 is hardly getting drunk is it or being irresponsible some of you on here make me laugh.

Up to the individual really...

i don't drink now and haven't touched a drink since finding out I was pregnant but that's my choice. I don't intend drinking until JJ is off the breast and even then it'll be a couple drinks every now and then and only when OH is looking after JJ. As long as one of us is sober that's fine IMO

Some might like to have one or 2 or whatever and that's up to them I wouldn't judge. It does disgust me though when I see or hear about mums being pylactic drunk while in charge of their children - my OH's sister regularly drinks while stood outside someones front door in a little gang (like 15yr olds even though theyre in late 30s - pathetic) and has her 5yr old with her, now she has a 7 month old but not sure if she still does it with the baby there prob does going on past experience - it's scummy IMO

I'm allowed my own opinion just like everyone else. I stand by what I said, I feel it's irresponsible.

I think its irresponsible as well

its different at a wedding ect as its the right environment.

drinking on a play date seems wrong to me as its a specially child orientated environment.

you wouldn't take a glass of wine to a soft play centre would you and i doubt you could find one that served alcohol

When I was at the library the other day, I heard some annoying moms talking about their next play date and who is going to bring the wine, etc. I personally think its wrong.
I think you must have an alcohol problem if you need to drink during the day while your kids are playing.

I wouldn't drink at home at night either, maybe one drink, but nothing that would make me incapable of driving or taking care of my daughter.

Irresponsible IMO no need for it, just selfish if you ask me. I wont even drink at any occasion if the kids are with me never mind a play date! and I would not drink on a evening when kids are in bed either.

Honestly I wouldn't do it myself. I do drink when LO is in bed but never more than one drink. I'm not a big drinker anyway. I've never been a fan of anyone getting plastered around children. My dad has a problem with drink and I remember a lot when I was younger, my Dad and stepmum would take us (all five children) to their friends etc and the adults would get drunk (there would be other children there) whilst I, as the oldest, was left to look after the other 5 million children present. This was at night time. After a while things changed, and it became a ritual that on a Saturday night Dad and co would go to the pub, dad and wife would get p!ssed and the kids would be sat around, miserable, the younger ones even crying because they were that tired, and it generally just sucked. And my Dad isn't a 'chav', he owns his own business, him and his wife are pretty well off. That was just the norm in their group of friends.

I know that is different, but it has put me off ever getting even tipsy in front of my LO. I hated the way it made me feel, the way that people behave when they are under the influence. I will never let me child be in that sort of situation. Its just not 'cool' with me.

And yes, I do think that getting DRUNK is irresponsible, but having one or two is not.

I wasnt really talking about the play date scenario, i was talking in general in evening occasions etc.

Id never even consider having alcohol if i went to a play group or whatever.