Aidan, DH, & I live with my MIL. She loves Aidan (a little creepyish...) and likes spending time with him. Recently for abou 3 days, LO has been having to spend the days with me....and nights at MIL & her boyfriends house because our heat went out at our house and we didn't want LO to be in a house with no warmth. (MIL & her boyfriend were just right across the street) After getting heat fixed the other day, everything was fine and I got my LO back at night but today MIL walks in the house and says want me to take aidan off your hands for awhile? I didn't know what to say because I wanted to Aidan to be with ME but I didn't know how to tell her without causing trouble? I said I didn't know because I would really miss him...and she just started getting his milk and preparing diapers in his diaper bag and said "yeah mommys (Um i think she meant MEMAW, not mommy...) gonna steal Aidan for a while DH said I was overreacting and that she was just trying to help as she told us to 'enjoy our break.' Am i overreacting??

I wouldnt appreciate her coming in and getting his stuff ready if i had already said no, thats just rude!

NO, i dont think your over reacting. She should have respected you when you said you'd miss him.

My MIL is pretty much the same. I'm always trying to be nice in telling her that I would really like to be alone with my LO but sometimes she just doesn't get it and is always butting in. Just today I was dressing Lena after her bath and in she walks in my bedroom and starts playing with the baby singing and making faces and making it extra difficult to dress a fussing baby who was tired and needed feeding. Today we were going out and she comes over to the car and asks me where I'm carrying her daughter. Say what??!!

I said all that to say that you're not alone hun and I don't think you're overreacting although she may mean well. Talk to her gently and maybe in time, you two can come to some understanding.

I don't think your overreacting at all! I would be beyond pissed if I had said I don't know and she went ahead to do it anyways. I think you should put your foot down and say no he's staying here, end of story.

my MIL is the same jus explain to her if she still doesnt understand i would say " Not being funny i know ur tryna help but if i need a break u will be the first person to know " i know MIL's can be so difficult sometimes and try n take over and dictate like dont do that, no u do it like this etc i dont think they mean harm they just think they know best most of the time...and how rude after u saying NO she startd packing his bag, if it was me i would get my DH to have a word n see what happens good luck hun xx

From your post it seems to me, that you didn't tell her no she didn't need to take him? Maybe you need to be a bit firmer and def say no as maybe she thinks she is just helping you out?

Maybe she loves having him and thinks u like the break idk ...the way she did it was wrong but guessin her heat are in right place x

I dont think your over reacting no.

I have to say from another point of view it sounds great to me. My parents and in laws live in Scotland so thousands of miles away and since Euan was born as much as I love him, I have not had a break at all. I have looked after him every day and DH helps out at weekends but I dont go out alone because I feel when its DH days off we should spend it as a family. I would love to have relatives close by to take the LO for a few hours so I could do something, relax, go to the cinema.

I can understand where your coming from though. Hope you get the situation sorted out.

Hun i feel your pain ... my oh me and lo live at mil house full time and it is a nightmare.... she will come in from work and picks him up even when i just get him settled..... the other day she told me she was going to start weaning him and went to give him mash... he is only just 3 months ffs... sorry for the rant but i hear what you mean and she should have not done that xxx hugs for you hun x