Help!! I feel like a prisoner!!

millygirl · Nov 15th, 2009, 02:37 AM

Just wondering how other mums coped after baby came along?
Do you still go out much?
Whenever we've gone somewhere, Chayce will never nap there, so he gets so grumpy when we get home that it can take a few hours for him to calm, he gets so unsettled.I've gotten to the point where I won't go anywhere.
Because if I do I'm constantly tending to him for it to be an outing.I might as well have stayed home and he screams so much when we get home or won't sleep well that night, that I figure it's just not worth it!

I feel like a prisoner and everything revolves around his routine...but it would be nice to go places with him you know....9wks and I feel like this is how it will be forever....

I just feel isolated....please share your experiences or ideas to help me...its starting to get me down.

ScarletWillow · Nov 15th, 2009, 02:40 AM

I'm scared that's how it's going to be when LO arrives, that I'll feel so disconnected from everyone and like my life is being put on hold. Remember it won't last forever no matter how much it feels like that at the moment. It doesn't make it easy, just easier.

Scally · Nov 15th, 2009, 03:24 AM

If i go out Izzy wont sleep either, and is then grumpy because so tired!!! but sometimes i just have to get out for my sanity!!! If i go out one day i usually stay in the next. I also dread going in the car and tend to avoid it as she hates her car seat and will scream for most of the journey, so i'm very conscious of that especially if i'm with other people. Sometimes with sleep thing i time it so i go out when shes already asleep then she stays asleep or i go into a cafe if i know shes tired and rock her to sleep. i totally know where u r coming from, have u tried a carrier, Izzy will sleep in one of those.

rach321 · Nov 15th, 2009, 03:49 AM

My LO always used to get freaked out by new people and situations, what really helped was a baby carrier ( we had a baby bjorn but there are lots of others), I used to put him in that when he started to get fussy and he would cuddle right in and go to sleep - I think being able to hear my heartbeat really calmed him down. The other plus is that you have both hands free then!

Hollys_Twinny · Nov 15th, 2009, 03:54 AM

Maybe leave it a week or two then try again!! I remember at that age Morgan would hate something one day then love it the next!!! Maybe start by just taking him to your parents for a few hours each day!!! That way your out of the house. Hope it gets better soon gun ( which it will) they don't stay babies long and you'll have the problem of him not wanting to stay in then lol x

millygirl · Nov 15th, 2009, 04:24 AM

I have tried a baby carrier the other day, and he completely freaked out....maybe he needs to get used to it, I thought he'd love it being so close to me.
Thanks for your help girls!

cherrished · Nov 15th, 2009, 04:57 AM

Hi Zachary was the same at first when we took him out around 8 weeks he never napped and got really grumpy when we came home....but i still stuck with it an took him out around 3-4 times a week he got used to it after about a week or two now he always sleeps when we around other peoples houses or out & about and he is so comfortable smiling & laughing all the way...I think u just have to wait for him to get use to going places seeing new fings && new faces after a while he will get use to and enjoy it...Zachary loves his car seat he loves sleeping in it he sleeps better in his seat then he use to in his moses.. hope this helps i just stuck to the routine of taking him out different places and he just got so use to it he loves going out now x

Kiree · Nov 15th, 2009, 05:04 AM

Is his routine pretty settled? If not, use these quiet days in to observe his natural pattern and watch for his tired cues etc. That way when you do get out you might feel more prepared and in control (sorry if u already have him settled, just an idea). Or maybe try this week to get him used to having one of his naps in his pram for example then once he seems ok with that, aim to go out over that time of day.

When noah was the same age as your LO we only ever got out in the afternoons by the time everything was sorted.

Also, it took noah a while to get used to his mei tai, I tried a few different types of carriers, so keep trying him with your carrier when he's relaxed, just for a few mins. I used to put him in it right at the door an walk round the garden so he was distracted and got used to it.

Just take small steps like a couple of hours out, and don't expect too much of you or him. It does get better. Good luck hun x

beancounter · Nov 15th, 2009, 05:45 AM

The thing you have got to remember is that even a month is a massive amount of time to your baby, so next month- a whole new set of rules apply. When Finn was little I assumed it would be like that forever- I used to have to take him for a stroll at 10.30 ever day to get him to nap. I worried what I would do in winter when it was raining. HE fed every2 hours and I would go shopping and run around like a blue arsed fly to get it done before he was hungry...Of course, now it is winter and he is napping in his cot, and he only has two naps a day and he eats when we do at mealtimes and this means going out is much easier.

I have different problems now.He crawls, he pull upon stuff,he eats electric flex, his teeth hurt...

beancounter · Nov 15th, 2009, 05:48 AM

oh, and about baby carriers- I had a hammocky thing, he loved that.. but it brock my back.. I got a baby bjorn, but he didnt like that very much. Basically what I did was wait until he was in a really good mood and tried him in it. Gradually he associated it with haveing a nice time and after a week he just loved it. Still use it now, naps in it and every thing

Nov 15th, 2009, 02:37 AM	#1
millygirl Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: australia Posts: 330	Help!! I feel like a prisoner!! Just wondering how other mums coped after baby came along? Do you still go out much? Whenever we've gone somewhere, Chayce will never nap there, so he gets so grumpy when we get home that it can take a few hours for him to calm, he gets so unsettled.I've gotten to the point where I won't go anywhere. Because if I do I'm constantly tending to him for it to be an outing.I might as well have stayed home and he screams so much when we get home or won't sleep well that night, that I figure it's just not worth it! I feel like a prisoner and everything revolves around his routine...but it would be nice to go places with him you know....9wks and I feel like this is how it will be forever.... I just feel isolated....please share your experiences or ideas to help me...its starting to get me down.

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Nov 15th, 2009, 02:40 AM	#2
ScarletWillow Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Burnaby, BC Posts: 100	I'm scared that's how it's going to be when LO arrives, that I'll feel so disconnected from everyone and like my life is being put on hold. Remember it won't last forever no matter how much it feels like that at the moment. It doesn't make it easy, just easier.

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Nov 15th, 2009, 03:24 AM	#3
Scally Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Essex Posts: 4,089	If i go out Izzy wont sleep either, and is then grumpy because so tired!!! but sometimes i just have to get out for my sanity!!! If i go out one day i usually stay in the next. I also dread going in the car and tend to avoid it as she hates her car seat and will scream for most of the journey, so i'm very conscious of that especially if i'm with other people. Sometimes with sleep thing i time it so i go out when shes already asleep then she stays asleep or i go into a cafe if i know shes tired and rock her to sleep. i totally know where u r coming from, have u tried a carrier, Izzy will sleep in one of those.

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Nov 15th, 2009, 03:49 AM	#4
rach321 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Herts Posts: 1,217	My LO always used to get freaked out by new people and situations, what really helped was a baby carrier ( we had a baby bjorn but there are lots of others), I used to put him in that when he started to get fussy and he would cuddle right in and go to sleep - I think being able to hear my heartbeat really calmed him down. The other plus is that you have both hands free then!

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Nov 15th, 2009, 03:54 AM	#5
Hollys_Twinny Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Uk Posts: 4,231	Maybe leave it a week or two then try again!! I remember at that age Morgan would hate something one day then love it the next!!! Maybe start by just taking him to your parents for a few hours each day!!! That way your out of the house. Hope it gets better soon gun ( which it will) they don't stay babies long and you'll have the problem of him not wanting to stay in then lol x

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Nov 15th, 2009, 04:24 AM	#6
millygirl Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: australia Posts: 330	I have tried a baby carrier the other day, and he completely freaked out....maybe he needs to get used to it, I thought he'd love it being so close to me. Thanks for your help girls!

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Nov 15th, 2009, 04:57 AM	#7
cherrished Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: England, Derbyshire Posts: 564	Hi Zachary was the same at first when we took him out around 8 weeks he never napped and got really grumpy when we came home....but i still stuck with it an took him out around 3-4 times a week he got used to it after about a week or two now he always sleeps when we around other peoples houses or out & about and he is so comfortable smiling & laughing all the way...I think u just have to wait for him to get use to going places seeing new fings && new faces after a while he will get use to and enjoy it...Zachary loves his car seat he loves sleeping in it he sleeps better in his seat then he use to in his moses.. hope this helps i just stuck to the routine of taking him out different places and he just got so use to it he loves going out now x

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Nov 15th, 2009, 05:04 AM	#8
Kiree Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: North East England Posts: 1,080	Is his routine pretty settled? If not, use these quiet days in to observe his natural pattern and watch for his tired cues etc. That way when you do get out you might feel more prepared and in control (sorry if u already have him settled, just an idea). Or maybe try this week to get him used to having one of his naps in his pram for example then once he seems ok with that, aim to go out over that time of day. When noah was the same age as your LO we only ever got out in the afternoons by the time everything was sorted. Also, it took noah a while to get used to his mei tai, I tried a few different types of carriers, so keep trying him with your carrier when he's relaxed, just for a few mins. I used to put him in it right at the door an walk round the garden so he was distracted and got used to it. Just take small steps like a couple of hours out, and don't expect too much of you or him. It does get better. Good luck hun x

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Nov 15th, 2009, 05:45 AM	#9
beancounter Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 2,921	The thing you have got to remember is that even a month is a massive amount of time to your baby, so next month- a whole new set of rules apply. When Finn was little I assumed it would be like that forever- I used to have to take him for a stroll at 10.30 ever day to get him to nap. I worried what I would do in winter when it was raining. HE fed every2 hours and I would go shopping and run around like a blue arsed fly to get it done before he was hungry...Of course, now it is winter and he is napping in his cot, and he only has two naps a day and he eats when we do at mealtimes and this means going out is much easier. I have different problems now.He crawls, he pull upon stuff,he eats electric flex, his teeth hurt...

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Nov 15th, 2009, 05:48 AM	#10
beancounter Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 2,921	oh, and about baby carriers- I had a hammocky thing, he loved that.. but it brock my back.. I got a baby bjorn, but he didnt like that very much. Basically what I did was wait until he was in a really good mood and tried him in it. Gradually he associated it with haveing a nice time and after a week he just loved it. Still use it now, naps in it and every thing

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