When Ilana was around that age I could have written that post! She used to scream and scream and scream in the evenings, fight me at the boob even though she was hungry - it was awful. Does your LO sleep at all during the day? In the end she stopped after a fairly short time (didn't feel like it at the time) but with hindsight I think she was overstimulated and over tired, so she wanted to sleep but couldn't. That, combined with a growth spurt = screamy baby and unhappy parents.

These pages helped me a little:
http://moxie.blogs.com/askmoxie/2006..._witching.html
http://www.kellymom.com/babyconcerns/fussy-evening.html

huge hugs to you colsy; i'm so sorry you & monty are going through this...

i dont have much advise, but i have to agree with the poster that said about gripe water; this has worked wonders with harry!
also, a thing to consider may well be a sensitivity to lactose... i think i heard once that if you bf, try cutting out lactose in your own diet to see if that helps?
i also have a vague memory of my friend saying her lo had a telescopic bowel??? i dont know what it isb tbh, but i'm sure her daughter had similar symptoms. i'm sure that's just me being dramatic tho and that monty doesnt have anything lik that...

i really hope he gets better soon hun...

Sounds like silent reflux to me as that has no visible signs. Have you tried putting a baby wedge underneath his back to elevated him when he is sleeping - a friend whose baby had silent reflux tried it as he sleeps so much better now

I didn't have time to read everyone's responses, but man, I feel for you! I remember those times. It turned out that our LO had reflux - but only got the diagnosis and meds at 8 weeks, after we were well past the end of our rope. Perhaps get your LO checked for reflux? It helped Miss M to suck on a soother - sucking helps keep the acid in the tummy. Also we elevated the head of her mattress, which helped. There was an amazing book that I read that helped me get just the right moves to soothe her too - The Happiest Baby on the Block. Basically, you a) swaddle the baby so they can't flail and stimulate themselves too much, b) hold the baby sideways to turn off the moro (startle) reflex, c) swing the baby from side to side, d) shhh the baby to simulate the sound of the womb (we ended up buying a white noise machine that we still use, this worked so well) and e) soother - we let her suck. We did all these things at the same time and she'd calm down in about 10 minutes.

That being said, it has gotten easier and easier as she's gotten older. I hardly remember it now that she's 3 1/2 months old (though I do remember crying and feeling frustrated and helpless and exhausted most of the time).

Good luck - we're all rooting for you!!!


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Hi there, I don't post very often but read your thread and it sounded so much like my LO at 2 and a half weeks. She had gone from very contented placid baby to windy and colicky every evening and then got herself so worn out she was then over tired and completely inconsolable for hours....its exhausting and such hard work - I really sympathise with you and DH.

Her wind was also down below and she would have really painful sounding explosions of poo quite often throughout these hours of crying. I spoke to my health visitor who suggested a cranial osteopath, so we gave it a try and it was just amazing! We got an appt the next day and she asked hundreds of questions about the kind of delivery I'd had, the pregnancy, how she sleeps and feeds and about her "colic". She had a feel of LO's head so gently I couldn't see her fingers move at all and treated her while I breastfed her and though LO was was agitated that night (osteopath said she would be) we saw instant results in her temperament and wind and she now only poos once a day with no discomfort at all and burps really loudly after each feed. (who says bf babies don't need winding eh?) DH was quite cynical in the beginning but he's telling all his friends with babies to try it!

We have had 3 sessions in all and have seen improvements with each session and have now been discharged from the osteopath until LO starts to walk when we need to go back for 1 session. I can't recommend it highly enough- they will tell you if the problem is not something they can help you with. I only wish I'd known about it with my first who had a difficult ventouse delivery and cried pretty much for her first 3 months...the osteopath has suggested she probably had a stinking headache while her head went back to normal shape...everyone told me "it was just colic"!

Good luck whatever you do though...it does get easier slowly.

Hi there, my LO is exactly the same, has been since bringing her home from the hospital. If she's not sleeping r feeding she's usually crying
I've tried numerous things and have given up BF due t this as I thought I might be causing her to be this way but It hasn't changed
Des your LO arch his back when ur feeding or son after? My LO does this all the time and screams, and stops after just a few gulps of milk, but isn't actually sick and she has silent reflux. Your LO sounds like he has all the other classic symtoms, ie feeding a lot, wont lie on back etc. My LO will not lay on her back either and it was VERY hard in the early days as she would only sleep on us, s we took it in turns having her and co-slept, but from about 4 weeks i resorted to sleeping her on her front, I obviously didn't want to do this but its the only way we all get some rest and she will only sleep on her front still.

The HV's arnen't concerned as she's gaining weight but it sure is difficult living with it 24/7. I tried infant gaviscon but that didn't work, have you tried colief, I heard that helps. Hopefully they will grow out of it, youre nt alone xx

wanted to send haven't had a chance to read all the responses, but wanted to let you know things that work for us.

DD went through a week/fortnight of being very unhappy with wind...we found the following helped:

1. Infacol - it takes about a week to fully kick in (works by building up) What it does is allow the wind bubbles to become bigger, and therefore easier to pass. She has burped and trumped like a trooper since it started working

2. Three cheers for the Baby Bjorn sling! On nights where she is grizzling, popping her in that and walking around the house for a short while works WONDERS

3. I cut out cows milk (I still eat cheese) as it gives me a bit of stomach ache, so I thought it could be upsetting DDs tummy

4. Reading up on growth spurts...she's currently going through another, and during this time she can eat and eat and eat and want lots of cuddles

Know that it does pass, and Monty will settle into a routine. However, I would say go with your instinct...Mummys instinct is a powerful thing, so do speak to your GP if you are remotely concerned. That's what they are there for.

i have had the same problem as u hun not nice at all good luck hun x

Sounds like you have had lots of great advice.

It sounds exactly like what i went through with Amelia when she was a baby.

Honestly i think the crying is a combination of trapped wind, hunger and tiredness.

How frequently do you feed during the day? I would try every 2hrs if you are not already and that is 2hrs from the start of the feed.
In the evenings it is very normal for them to cluster feed anywhere after 5pm up 9/10pm this could mean feeding every 1hr or 10mins. Trying to stock up for the night, i would let him feed as much as he wants too in the evening.

Babies this young to not have 'wants' they have 'needs', they don't want a cuddle they NEED a cuddle, so don't worry about giving all the attention he needs from you both.

Couple of things you could try if you don't already...swaddling and a dummy/pacifier, they may help, but the dummy can cause problems with latching for a feed so maybe speak to a professional B/F counsellor.

The good news, things do get better!

p.s forgot to add, the nurse told me to lay Amelia on my lap with her feet by my tummy, head on my knees. Lay your hand flat on their tummy (your palm near their crotch) and to massage the lower tummy left to right, this really helps relieve any trapped wind deep in their little tums.

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