kelseyyy

(I apologize if this is in the wrong section, it has a little bit of every subject so didn't know where to place it )

MIL and DH are driving me insane about starting LO (who will be 3 months in 2 days) on solids. They both have kind of cooled it down since I went off on them about it not too long ago, but seeing as how DH had a "plan" to start LO on solids at three months, i'm afraid him and his mother will start pestering me again I think I should be the one making those kinds of decisions, i mean DH is Aidans daddy and all but he never gets up with him during the night, pays more attention to his xbox than LO and acts grouchy when I ask him to feed him or change him (thats a WHOLE different rant...) So considering I am the only one who wakes up during the night/cares for him the most I believe I should be the one making the decision when to wean him!!
MIL has nailed it into DH's head that Aidan is ready for rice cereal and that I should just mix a little up in his bottle and bottle feed it to him, but I keep hearing/reading things saying that cereal in a bottle is dangerous, i told this to DH and he says that he thinks bottle feeding it seems less dangerous than spoon feeding. I want to wait until atleast another month (when LO will be 4 months, what our pediatrician recommended, DH was sitting right there when she said it, why would he or anyone want to rush things and take a risk?!) When I speak to DH about this he gets easily annoyed. I know Aidan will be hitting the 3-4 month growth spurt, so they both will really be on my tail! What can I do??? xx

Donna35

Tell them bluntly both at the same time that YOU are the child's mother and as such you know best and are following the instruction of your paediatrician. Also say to OH 'you were there when paediatrician said not to feed that early too'

My son is roughly the same age and no way would I feed him this early not unless HV recommended it. They've told me I will prob have to wean him a little early as he's a bigger hungrier baby but that they'll advise nearer the time so I'll follow their advice same as you are.

honestly hun your OH needs told to get his mum off your back you have enough to deal with being a new mummy without feeling ganged up on by them. Hope it gets sorted xxx

sb22

i would be the same-any decisions made i have the say in them, I decide.

there is no rush-there is nothing to gain from weaning early, you.ve got plenty of time.

and if that was my MIL she'd be getting told to shut it, its got bugger all to do with her lol!

leighbaby

It is your choice - you are his mummy!
get yourself prepared with lots of reasons and when anyone says 'i did it and my children were ok/turned out ok' tell them that for you, ok isn't good enough!!

caydensmom

I am going through something similiar. My grandmother keeps pestering me about giving my baby solids now. She says she has fed her babies with it and nothing has ever gone wrong. My mother respects my decision about giving him solids at four months but everyone else seems to think that's too long. I hate it when people keep telling me to either feed him cereal in a bottle or solids. He's too young...I keep reading things about not giving cereal and food to early because their digestive system isn't advanced enough to digest it. It seems that no one wants to listen. I always tell them THANK YOU FOR YOUR ADVICE BUT I WILL FEED HIM SOLIDS WHEN THE DR. SAYS SO AND THAT'S AT FOUR MONTHS. My grandmother keeps telling me that I am starving the baby and he wants solids now. Ughhhhhhhhhh I so hate to go by her for that same reason. The topic is always about food.

asacia

Would printing of the current guidelines help? Can you ask OH why he thinks LO needs solids, and explain to him why this isn't correct? Have you explained the risks of early weaning?

Lucy_lu_84

Stick to your guns. Like others have said your the mother your choice.
Be eady with answers. Follw your instincts and listen to dr.

We got alot around 3-4 months from friends and family, they convined DH it was a miracle cure to sleeping thru. I refused I am waitng till as close to 6 months as I can. Oh and he slept thru last night for first time ever, so proved solids weren't nesesary.

soon2b6

Its old school thinking, my first was weaned at 3 months based on general advice, this has subsequently changed to 4 months and now I believe they say 6 (I will never get to 6 months though, I know this,lol) My husband was given cereal in his bottle at 1 month, so there have been lots and lots of changing opinions on this over the years. You do what you feel is right for your baby.

Sherileigh

My god people can be so irritating!! MIL's always have fantastic ideas on what you should be doing differently. I'd tell them both to piss off! You're the mom and you know what's best! Just tell your OH what your pediatrician recommends...you'd think he'd want to at least follow what the DR says?

Mum2b_Claire

My advice, as ever, is do your own research. Personally I do my own research before following advice from HV or Doctor. Doctors / paedetricians don't know everything and opinions vary within the profession.

This might help your OH ease off about wanting to wean if other reasons don't - I read a while ago that weaning too early when a baby's digestive system is immature can cause colic-like symptoms. I don't know anyone who has had this happen but who wants to risk that??