My mil put baby rice in dh's bottle from 6 weeks onwards so I am so scared she will try to feed my lo when we are there on hols - i shall be keeping a close watch as I intend to ebf until 6 month

My DH and I are going through a roughpatch and if I tell him that I'm his mother and I should make the decisions he goes nuts ("well I'm his father and i can make decisions too!") I can't believe that DH nor MIL has ever even heard of starting baby on cereal FROM A SPOON, she told me today she insisted that I put a tablespoon of it in his bottle. I told DH right then we needed to buy baby spoons (we have none, for some reason) and he didn't say anything. I am not going to back down. Mine and DHs relationship sucks. He gets mad at everything and acts like a little kid, we are on the verge of seperating for good. I have already said to him, why would he go against the dr's advice and he says "Well if we listen to what the dr's said he wouldnt be eating solids until 12 months!!" and another defense is "well the dr's arent always right, they will tell yu everything by the book"
Ive told him countless times THERE IS A REASON THEY SAY WAIT. Our pediatrician (who I might say is a very good one) told us, start cereal at 4 months then baby food at 6 months IF LO IS EVEN READY THEN.

Matilda is almost 5 months old and I did a bit of research because she is starting to wake more at night again so I think she may be getting hungry. I have weighed up the pros and cons and decided to wait until 6 months as recommended. She is happy and putting on weight so I don't want to take the (albeit small) risk of early weaning.

And the advice is to NEVER put food in a bottle.

Stand your ground here - I have heard a lot of friends talking about this pressure and it invariably originates at MIL and is delivered via OH! One friend's MIL thinks her baby is too small and sneaked formula for hungrier babies into his feed even though she specifically asked her not to and he was sick for a day afterwards because it was too rich for him. Jeeez!

I'd be blunt with your MIL, he is yours and your OH son, not hers and that you do not wish to speak about it agaian, end of subject. I have always spoken to my OH about how we raise Ellis as we are his parents. As suggested on the thread, sit down with your OH armed with the information suggested here and talk to him. Although I am his mother he is also his father and so needs to be included in any desicions made.

all i can suggest is stick to your guns like you are... from the sounds of it you've tried reasoning with them but doesn't matter what evidence you have to back you up they're not gonna listen so stop wasting your energy and just put it to doing what you think is best instead

I agree with this although in certain situations ppl have no choice but to early wean but no way at 3 months

I am going to have a talk with DH and just tell him straight up "were going to do this, and this is why" Weaning is not a big problem IMO I just dont see why DH is in such a rush to start him on solids, I just think 3 months he is getting enough already from his milk. some babies may be ready to wean early but my LO surely isnt, he is showing no signs! Thanks ladies xx

Oh, honey, I feel for you. I'm going to surmise, having read your previous posts about your relationship with your OH and his mother, that this is part of a bigger problem. We can tell you, and your pediatrician can tell you, to wait on cereal until 4 months MINIMUM (in Canada, the guideline for any non-milk food is six months and then only IF the baby is ready) but the fact is that your boyfriend and his mother don't listen to you, they don't respect you, and you really need to leave them. They are toxic and they undermine your confidence that you are doing the right thing by your baby.

Let's put it this way: your previous posts have been very concerning regarding your mental state and emotional state while living there. They are unemployed, trying to get YOU to get a job, constantly harassing you, allowing others to put you down, complaining about YOU not doing housework etc. LET ALONE your OH's terribly cavalier attitude towards his son and helping you with him. That is horrible unto itself, with you a new mum and all, but it is UNACCEPTABLE to me that they would potentially put your baby's health at risk by suggesting he start solids early. What the hell?!!!

Please, Kelsey -- leave them. You are a better parent on your own than when you are being dragged down wrong paths by living in such a toxic environment. How many times will you be told it before you do the right thing for your son?

I really, really want the best for you and your baby, and I don't think you're getting it in that house.

You coukld try the approach and say to mil that you totally respect that she did that for dh as she is his mummy..now you are a mummy and she should respect ur choices with your lo?

I weaned aidan early due to hv advise

But like you said aidan seems to be doing fine. So why the rish to wean him?? I think you need to sit them both downand ask then whats the rush. Tell them that your his main carer your the one that spens most time with him so your the one that knows him best
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