I'm just wondering how much your OH's do with baby and just generally as I don't know if I am being unreasonable. I am feeling so tired and quite stressed as we are moving house on Monday and I feel like I do everything. My OH wors full time and I am still on maternity leave until January, our LO is 6 months old. I do most of the general childcare tasks even at the weekend and he always says that he works full time so is too tired to do anything with Lo. I got so cross tonight because I asked him to do the bath and he said he was too tired from working all day.

I love my OH but why won't he do more?

Stan was always (and still is) very involved with Hannah's care. He is lucky enough to work from home so does help some throughout the day and than when he's off in the evenings he plays with her until dinner time, than bathes her and is the one who puts her to bed. Watching a baby is a full time job as well!

katie's daddy always did feck all, even when he wasnt working! i just dont think they realise how mcuh work it is looking after a baby!

OH does a lot of playing with LO, but I do all the care stuff - feeding, changing, cleaning, as well as all the housework. I find he spends more time with LO when it is his idea, and not me suggesting it.

I've always felt that as I'm the one at home, I should look after LO all the time. If asked if I want to swap, I wouldn't! OH and I both see my role as the easier of the two. I think it depends on the job OH does and the hours.

Wow I better go and thank my OH, he comes in from work, gets all the bath stuff ready, plays with Chloe for half hour then I bath her and he feeds her and puts her in her cot etc, at the weekends we take it in turns to have a lie in one Saturday and the other Sunday - he has had her a couple times all day when I have done some keeping in touch days at work so I think he realises what a hard job it is that we do too. He is just in the kitchen ironing whilst I do the dinner [doh knew I was supposed to be doing something!] bless him. Maybe leave your LO with your OH for an hour and he will see how tiring it is to do what you do all day too x

My OH is at uni away most of the time, he visits 2-3 days every 3-4 weeks. But during his summer hols for 3 months he was living with us. He does very little without prompting, only helps if im doing something e.g- warming up Noah's lunch or gettig water to change his nappy and he starts crying, then OH will go to him. But I hav to ask him to do anything like change his nappy or bath him. He will do it if I ask him, but he never actually wants to, wont moan but admits when asked that he would rather not do it. The only thing he likes doing is feeding him his meals and playing with him for short periods. But OH used to do nothing when LO was younger, only recently has he really started bonding. Is there anything OH likes doing with LO? I would hav been annoyed if OH said he was to tired to bath LO, i'd hav said and wat do you think ive been doing all day. Does LO? sleep thro the nite? does OH help at nite? thats good ammo for me cos OH has neva helped at nite and LO used to be a nite mare. Recently getting better, so if OH said he was tired, i'd just remind him who had been up all nite and who was gonna be up all nite 2nite lol xxx

pictureperfect can we swap please? My OH is upstairs now trying to pacify lo for what is probably only the second time ever. he said tonight he didn't think Sam liked him and I returned by saying he needed to spend more time with him. Guess it worked. BUT I still do everything around the house even shutting draws behind him.

Oh dear I feel bad now as earlier when OH wanted to cut his hair I said but you havn't played with Chloe and she is due to go to bed soon :-) He laughed at me though. Sorry can't swap but may loan him out for a good price!!! x

My OH is wonderful. He has a desk job and works 6am to 3pm, so when he comes home he takes LO while I get what I need done. Shower, laundry, dishes, etc. He also changes him and feeds him. On the weekends OH lets me sleep and he gets up with him in the night, but on weekdays I tend to let OH sleep because he has to get up at 5 in the morning to go to work. We pretty much take turns on everything, except bathing and we do that together.

TBH bugger them working all day, i work all day (not every day) but DH and I take it in turns to bathe Amelia.

Its his special time really if he hasn't seen her all day then they can have some daddy/daughter time.

I don't get why some men feel that way, they are missing out on so much of their babies lives, i love bathing Amelia and DH does too.

Maybe you should ask him why he doesn't want to spend time with her/him? This age passes so quickly and i say grab every second you can with them