Having a freak out please help! - Page 2

katycam · Nov 2nd, 2009, 08:41 AM

Austin is really sucky so he has a dummy to go to sleep.

TennisGal · Nov 2nd, 2009, 23:10 PM

thank you all...well, DD has been up since 11:30, and has only just drifted to sleep in the Baby Bjorn. She's been frantically trying to suck her hands and thumb, but hasn't worked out how to keep them in there yet!! I let her have the dummy for a couple of minutes, she drifted off, I removed it - put her down, she woke up! Proferred dummy again, and she spat it out.

She doesn't want to comfort suck on me, as I have a fast let down...and she gets upset with the milk coming out.

Not sure how to progress her comfort sucking, as it's clearly what she wants to do!! Dummy seems most favoured option - but I know if there are occasions she doesn't want it, I'll totally freak out and worry.

Not sure what to do!!

lexy604 · Nov 2nd, 2009, 23:41 PM

Carter is the same he usually likes to suck on it when hes fussy after a feeding than he will usually pass out and spit it out i only use it when hes really fussy not all the time. Like if he is sleeping i will usually wait for it to fall out and take it just because i dont want him needing it all the time. I think its a personal thing some people dont even use them at all. I would also rather him suck on one than his hand or thumb as i worry about buck teeth lol

TennisGal · Nov 3rd, 2009, 04:55 AM

Ok, DD is having the dummy - she started crying after her feed this morning...got agitated with the boob and furious that she couldn't keep her thumb in her mouth. She had so many real tears, I felt awful. I proferred the dummy, and she fell asleep in about two seconds.

I phoned the FSID helpline, and they said it's great that she'll take it - stats show it can reduced SIDS, but we must remember to give it to her before all naps. I have a feeling she'll remind us. Apparently it's not a problem if she refuses to take it.

wishingonastar · Nov 3rd, 2009, 05:52 AM

glad you've found a resolution for you

TennisGal · Nov 3rd, 2009, 05:59 AM

thank you

and for all your reassurance. I'm a real worrier, and it's so nice to get advice from rational people!

dali · Nov 3rd, 2009, 07:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wishingonastar

hey tennisgal - honestly five times won't make LO reliant on it

my little girl used me as her dummy til she learnt to suck her thumb at 9 weeks and obviously i wasn't next to her once she was in her basket for her to constantly suckle at whilst asleep so this would be the same as your LO using you or a dummy a little and then not having you next to them while they sleep

please don't panic about it hun it's fine

however, if LO is taking a dummy well and its not interfering with the latch when feeding then you've no reason not to use one if you feel its best for you...entirely your choice

i agree , they say not ot use one for the first month ( for latching reasons ) your baby is now over a month anyway and if she is still feeding fine after using the dummy i dont see a problem.
my lo was very sucky too, he had a dummy from day 2 for sleeping ( ff so no latch worries )
good luck , dont worry

TennisGal · Nov 3rd, 2009, 09:08 AM

Thank you...sometimes googling can lead to all sorts of panic, so much conflicting advice! I didn't know what on earth to think!

She's just settled for another nap, this time refusing the dummy (!) but guidelines say not to force her if she doesn't want it. She seems much happier since having it this am.

Nov 2nd, 2009, 08:41 AM	#11
katycam Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Southampton UK Posts: 2,281	Austin is really sucky so he has a dummy to go to sleep.

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TennisGal Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Bucks, UK Posts: 5,060	thank you all...well, DD has been up since 11:30, and has only just drifted to sleep in the Baby Bjorn. She's been frantically trying to suck her hands and thumb, but hasn't worked out how to keep them in there yet!! I let her have the dummy for a couple of minutes, she drifted off, I removed it - put her down, she woke up! Proferred dummy again, and she spat it out. She doesn't want to comfort suck on me, as I have a fast let down...and she gets upset with the milk coming out. Not sure how to progress her comfort sucking, as it's clearly what she wants to do!! Dummy seems most favoured option - but I know if there are occasions she doesn't want it, I'll totally freak out and worry. Not sure what to do!!

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lexy604 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Burnaby B.C Posts: 1,954	Carter is the same he usually likes to suck on it when hes fussy after a feeding than he will usually pass out and spit it out i only use it when hes really fussy not all the time. Like if he is sleeping i will usually wait for it to fall out and take it just because i dont want him needing it all the time. I think its a personal thing some people dont even use them at all. I would also rather him suck on one than his hand or thumb as i worry about buck teeth lol

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Nov 3rd, 2009, 04:55 AM	#14
TennisGal Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Bucks, UK Posts: 5,060	Ok, DD is having the dummy - she started crying after her feed this morning...got agitated with the boob and furious that she couldn't keep her thumb in her mouth. She had so many real tears, I felt awful. I proferred the dummy, and she fell asleep in about two seconds. I phoned the FSID helpline, and they said it's great that she'll take it - stats show it can reduced SIDS, but we must remember to give it to her before all naps. I have a feeling she'll remind us. Apparently it's not a problem if she refuses to take it.

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Nov 3rd, 2009, 05:52 AM	#15
wishingonastar Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: England Posts: 7,806	glad you've found a resolution for you

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Nov 3rd, 2009, 05:59 AM	#16
TennisGal Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Bucks, UK Posts: 5,060	thank you and for all your reassurance. I'm a real worrier, and it's so nice to get advice from rational people!

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Nov 3rd, 2009, 09:08 AM	#18
TennisGal Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Bucks, UK Posts: 5,060	Thank you...sometimes googling can lead to all sorts of panic, so much conflicting advice! I didn't know what on earth to think! She's just settled for another nap, this time refusing the dummy (!) but guidelines say not to force her if she doesn't want it. She seems much happier since having it this am.

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