Hi all

OH and I are thinking of trying for another baby around next Sept time, to hopefully have him/her around the same time as Emma turns 2.

I was just wondering, if you have kiddies with a similar age gap, how do you find it??

ATM I'd 'happily' try for another now...but that's because Emma's rather immobile, LOL - once she starts crawling/walking I'm not sure it'd be so easy

Would just like to hear your thoughts

My first and second are 2 1/2wks shy of being exactly 2yrs apart and then my second and third are almost exactly 2 1/2yrs apart. I love their age gap. My older 2 especially are soooo close

My first two are 18 months apart. Quite a bit of work for awhile, so I am not here to tell you any different.

But I noticed a big change when my second started crawling and then walking. I had some free time! And they are very close too.

Funny, I have a 14 month old who's home by himself with me while my other two are at school all day. I honestly don't remember my other babies being so clingy...they had each other. But, this one, he only has me to entertain him

I would not recommend the age gap we have!

DS1 - 8
DS2 - 4
Amber - 13 weeks

So about the 4 years. 4 years between 2 is great, 4 years between 3 is not so great. One at school, one at nursery and one newborn means you spend all day doing school runs with no time to rest/sleep and mornings are just mental.

i havnt had my second yet but there is going to be roughly 15 month between them and personally i cant wait for he/she to arrive and we only want two so i wont be doing school runs while looking after a baby thankfully

There is 2 years 2 months between my two and although it's early days (my youngest if only 2 weeks old) I do think it's quite a nice age gap. My 2 year old is so so good with the baby and is at the stage where she's already forgetting being an only child.

The thing I find hardest is trying to split my time between them. At 2 my toddler still needs and wants lots of playing and doesn't like to entertain herself but I struggle to find the time to do everything she would like.
The guilt around this is really really difficult and makes me feel like I'm neglecting her as I spend all day saying 'no' or 'in a minute' or 'be careful!'
I think things will settle down a little and we'll all get more used to it and fit better into a routine soon but I still feel awful about how things are for my 2 year old and wonder how she's feeling about it all.

Hello..

There is just over a 12mth gap between my LO's.

Deacon was born on 23rd Sept 2008
Connie was born on 24th Sept 2009- She was born at 36+4

I am going to be totally honest with you and say its hard, well it is at the moment. Deacon is very mobile now and wants everything that he's not supposed to.
He wants alot of attention and always chatting away and gets upset a bit if the attention is on Connie, He trys to calm her down when she crys though by chatting to her

When she crys if she doesn't settle then he stresses. visa versa too.

As we are trying to cut his bottles down during the day he gets stressed when she has a feed sometimes.

Its hard trying to do housework too as one of them always wants your attention.

The worst for me is the night, as we are up a couple of times we are knackered and you can guarentee that Deacon will wake up as soon as we are droppin off from just feeding Connie.

OMG I sound so negitive about this but I am not, I love both of my children and I am glad that I had them so close together even tho it wasnt planned, I Know that its going to get easier but it just seems to be taking its time.

I must admit that sometimes I feel guilty because I cannot give Deacon all the attention that he needs as I am lookin after Connie and I feel that I have robbed him of this somehow but I know that he is happy and he is getting used to Connie now and even gives her Kissses.

If you feel ready to try for another then go for it. Everyones experiance is different and I wouldn't change my situation.

Hope I didnt scare you off the idea

Good Luckxx

THANKS EVERYONE!!!!! This has been really good to hear, appreciate everyone being honest xxxxxxxxxx

There is 4 yrs between my oldest and two and that worked a dream
Two yrs between my youngest two and its very hard ...The novilty asnt worn off he trys to hug (squeeze) her feed her cheese on toast pull her about all time i need eyes in my bum hoping it will get easier once she is grabbin him bak lol

LOL @ the cheese on toast thief!