Strops/Tantrums at 10 months

Pyrrhic · Oct 22nd, 2009, 07:32 AM

How do you deal with them?

Niamh has always been very independantly minded and strong willed

Now in the evenings it's a battle to try and get her changed, with her throwing all mighty strops when trying to get her dressed. Diverting her attention by giving her something to hold/play with anymore doesn't work.

She's started hitting and scratching now, which I don't react to at all. Shhe makes her body rigid and just screams. I don't feel saying 'No' will achieve anything as she gets so worked up she wouldn't be able to listen and we don't use 'no' in our house anyway.

Last night I just held her, and shushed and rocked her until she calmed down.

Any ideas?

Sophie1205 · Oct 22nd, 2009, 08:50 AM

Hmm Leo does this. every nappy or clothing change is a nightmare. He rolls over trying to get away and when I try to hold him still he stiffens his whole body and screamssss like crazy. Sometimes giving him something to hold works but other than that I dont know. So I'll be watching this thread for answers hehe xx

Pyrrhic · Oct 22nd, 2009, 12:51 PM

Yeah it's a nightmare, isn't it

Anyone have any ideas?

ccombes77 · Oct 22nd, 2009, 13:05 PM

Eric started this about a month ago but he throws his head back and I have to watch him close because he'll fall backwards from sitting and hit his head on the floor. Now i put him down on a pallet of pillows and let him have his fit. After I ignore him for a few minutes he'll usually come around. He's starting to see that I am not reacting to him.

bex · Oct 22nd, 2009, 14:01 PM

My Niamh has started to have major tantrums. If she doesn't want to do something she arches her back and throws herself back then kicks and screams. She is always difficult at nappy time and when getting dressed and its worse now she's walking!
I don't think there are any answers on how to deal with it and personally i think its just another "phase" our LO's go through as they grow up. We do tell Niamh "no", especially when she is hitting us or her brother and if she is having a major "hissy Fit" i leave her on the floor for a few seconds so she can calm down a little before i pick her up.

shampain · Oct 22nd, 2009, 14:25 PM

I have no idea how to stop it but Paddy does the same thing, one day he will just lay there and you can change his bum/dress him etc other days he's onto his front in a second crawling off, grabbing everything around him and when you turn him over he goes hysterical screaming and crying......grrrrrrr...health visitor came today and she said the best thing is a firm sharp NO and to put your hand out like flat (like the stop sign) i tried it tonight and it just made him scream louder but i think it may of been the tone of my voice?!?!

embojet · Oct 22nd, 2009, 14:36 PM

Molly is the same! I try distraction but I think she's on to me

PeanutBean · Oct 22nd, 2009, 15:08 PM

Byron has strops too and also does the stiffening and throwing himself backwards which often results in his smashing his head on the oak floor! If I need to get a job done usually I just do it anyway. If it's just because he wants to be stood up to walk around for the 5th consecutive hour and I need to get things done I'm afraid I just ignore him and he gets over it.

I have been saying no about things but that's more likely to cause a strop than resolve one!

Oct 22nd, 2009, 07:32 AM	#1
Pyrrhic Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 14,567	Strops/Tantrums at 10 months How do you deal with them? Niamh has always been very independantly minded and strong willed Now in the evenings it's a battle to try and get her changed, with her throwing all mighty strops when trying to get her dressed. Diverting her attention by giving her something to hold/play with anymore doesn't work. She's started hitting and scratching now, which I don't react to at all. Shhe makes her body rigid and just screams. I don't feel saying 'No' will achieve anything as she gets so worked up she wouldn't be able to listen and we don't use 'no' in our house anyway. Last night I just held her, and shushed and rocked her until she calmed down. Any ideas?

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Oct 22nd, 2009, 08:50 AM	#2
Sophie1205 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Merseyside, UK Posts: 5,884	Hmm Leo does this. every nappy or clothing change is a nightmare. He rolls over trying to get away and when I try to hold him still he stiffens his whole body and screamssss like crazy. Sometimes giving him something to hold works but other than that I dont know. So I'll be watching this thread for answers hehe xx

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Oct 22nd, 2009, 12:51 PM	#3
Pyrrhic Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 14,567	Yeah it's a nightmare, isn't it Anyone have any ideas?

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Oct 22nd, 2009, 13:05 PM	#4
ccombes77 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Alabama Posts: 57	Eric started this about a month ago but he throws his head back and I have to watch him close because he'll fall backwards from sitting and hit his head on the floor. Now i put him down on a pallet of pillows and let him have his fit. After I ignore him for a few minutes he'll usually come around. He's starting to see that I am not reacting to him.

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Oct 22nd, 2009, 14:01 PM	#5
bex Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: uk Posts: 2,040	My Niamh has started to have major tantrums. If she doesn't want to do something she arches her back and throws herself back then kicks and screams. She is always difficult at nappy time and when getting dressed and its worse now she's walking! I don't think there are any answers on how to deal with it and personally i think its just another "phase" our LO's go through as they grow up. We do tell Niamh "no", especially when she is hitting us or her brother and if she is having a major "hissy Fit" i leave her on the floor for a few seconds so she can calm down a little before i pick her up.

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Oct 22nd, 2009, 14:25 PM	#6
shampain Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Birkenshaw, Bradford Posts: 2,247	I have no idea how to stop it but Paddy does the same thing, one day he will just lay there and you can change his bum/dress him etc other days he's onto his front in a second crawling off, grabbing everything around him and when you turn him over he goes hysterical screaming and crying......grrrrrrr...health visitor came today and she said the best thing is a firm sharp NO and to put your hand out like flat (like the stop sign) i tried it tonight and it just made him scream louder but i think it may of been the tone of my voice?!?!

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Oct 22nd, 2009, 14:36 PM	#7
embojet Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Portsmouth Posts: 4,282	Molly is the same! I try distraction but I think she's on to me

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Oct 22nd, 2009, 15:08 PM	#8
PeanutBean Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2008 Location: Greater Manchester Posts: 18,226	Byron has strops too and also does the stiffening and throwing himself backwards which often results in his smashing his head on the oak floor! If I need to get a job done usually I just do it anyway. If it's just because he wants to be stood up to walk around for the 5th consecutive hour and I need to get things done I'm afraid I just ignore him and he gets over it. I have been saying no about things but that's more likely to cause a strop than resolve one!

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