Under pressure

mummydove · Oct 6th, 2009, 06:41 AM

I was out to lunch with Finley last week, and he was crying in the cafe, i think that this was mainly because of teething! this does not normally bother me because people expect children to cry sometimes but there was an elder lady staring at us. Eventually Finley calmed down and the lady said to me 'What is wrong with him' , i couldn't believe she was so rude. I said that he was teething and she said that she has never seen anything like it. She said that her grandaughter was always so good so she is not used to it!

I really had to bite my tongue. Just wonder why people have to be so rude sometimes! It honestly makes me feel really nervous now when i go out.

The only good thing about the story is that her granddaughter was playing on the swings later and when she went to get her to leave she turned around to her gran and said ' I am not leaving, you leave', she turned to me completely embarrased.

jojo2605 · Oct 6th, 2009, 07:18 AM

How rude! What she's never seen a 2 year old cry before?! what world does she live in then?! Not sure I could have bit my tongue to be honest!!

beancounter · Oct 6th, 2009, 08:03 AM

there are lots of miserable people out there. It must be very draining for them to have to find all those faults all thetim. I was at a pub with a friend once next to a big kids playcentre and an old man complained about the kids she was minding- they were just having fun. really, if you want a quiet drink dont go to a kid friendly pub and sit next to a playcentre. it's not rocket science!

mummydove · Oct 6th, 2009, 08:10 AM

My sister was with me at the time and she was just saying to me 'don't get stressed out by Finley's behaviour, it is what kids do and nobody is even bothered' and thats when the women decided to let herself known.

Just think that mum's have enough stress without other people making you feel worse.

sophie c · Oct 6th, 2009, 08:14 AM

i hate it when people stare at you if the baby is crying, alys was having a complete hissy fit once on a day out at a local farm and she was going red in the face whilst i was opening a carton of her milk to put in her bottle and these two women were staring at me like i didnt feed her ffs, ignore them hun i do, they need to get a grip if they think babies wont and shouldnt cry

xx

premmiemum123 · Oct 6th, 2009, 08:18 AM

How rude...how dare she, she was a mother once, hence the granddaughter...I can't believe people's impatience with children, they are such a joy and yes they do cry, shriek, squeal etc...I don't think I would have been able to bite my tongue but then can't say until it happens to me. I think you did the right thing.
I laughed when I read the bit about her granddaughter chatting back to her grandmother...hhmmmm model granddaughter, I think not....

sublime_ivy · Oct 6th, 2009, 08:23 AM

one word. cow.

Kit · Oct 6th, 2009, 08:28 AM

So many people seem to just want to disapprove on principle. Odd, when as another thread shows, there are plenty of things to genuinely disapprove of! I seem to have a very chilled-out baby who rarely cries so I have never really got used to public melt-downs - when they do happen I get in a complete flap still!

nikkip75 · Oct 6th, 2009, 09:38 AM

i think a lot of "OLDER" people seem to think they have a right to comment on everything!!

i was on a bus once when an old fella started going on about how prams shouldnt be allowed on buses! well he got a mouth full from me!

and then another bus another day another old fella moaning about a mum being on the bus with a doulble pram and how in his day mums used to walk everywhere with their children and how mums today are lazy getting buses

i had to bite my tongue that day!!!

im sure they think in their day kids didnt cry

leighbaby · Oct 6th, 2009, 12:36 PM

grrrrrrr, but 'ha ha' to her (simpson stylee!)

Oct 6th, 2009, 06:41 AM	#1
mummydove Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Hampshire Posts: 124	Under pressure I was out to lunch with Finley last week, and he was crying in the cafe, i think that this was mainly because of teething! this does not normally bother me because people expect children to cry sometimes but there was an elder lady staring at us. Eventually Finley calmed down and the lady said to me 'What is wrong with him' , i couldn't believe she was so rude. I said that he was teething and she said that she has never seen anything like it. She said that her grandaughter was always so good so she is not used to it! I really had to bite my tongue. Just wonder why people have to be so rude sometimes! It honestly makes me feel really nervous now when i go out. The only good thing about the story is that her granddaughter was playing on the swings later and when she went to get her to leave she turned around to her gran and said ' I am not leaving, you leave', she turned to me completely embarrased.

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Oct 6th, 2009, 07:18 AM	#2
jojo2605 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Brummyland Posts: 2,577	How rude! What she's never seen a 2 year old cry before?! what world does she live in then?! Not sure I could have bit my tongue to be honest!!

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Oct 6th, 2009, 08:03 AM	#3
beancounter Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 2,921	there are lots of miserable people out there. It must be very draining for them to have to find all those faults all thetim. I was at a pub with a friend once next to a big kids playcentre and an old man complained about the kids she was minding- they were just having fun. really, if you want a quiet drink dont go to a kid friendly pub and sit next to a playcentre. it's not rocket science!

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Oct 6th, 2009, 08:10 AM	#4
mummydove Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Hampshire Posts: 124	My sister was with me at the time and she was just saying to me 'don't get stressed out by Finley's behaviour, it is what kids do and nobody is even bothered' and thats when the women decided to let herself known. Just think that mum's have enough stress without other people making you feel worse.

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Oct 6th, 2009, 08:14 AM	#5
sophie c Waiting To Try (WTT) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: cardiff, wales Posts: 2,827	i hate it when people stare at you if the baby is crying, alys was having a complete hissy fit once on a day out at a local farm and she was going red in the face whilst i was opening a carton of her milk to put in her bottle and these two women were staring at me like i didnt feed her ffs, ignore them hun i do, they need to get a grip if they think babies wont and shouldnt cry xx

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Oct 6th, 2009, 08:18 AM	#6
premmiemum123 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Surrey Posts: 464	How rude...how dare she, she was a mother once, hence the granddaughter...I can't believe people's impatience with children, they are such a joy and yes they do cry, shriek, squeal etc...I don't think I would have been able to bite my tongue but then can't say until it happens to me. I think you did the right thing. I laughed when I read the bit about her granddaughter chatting back to her grandmother...hhmmmm model granddaughter, I think not....

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Oct 6th, 2009, 08:23 AM	#7
sublime_ivy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Newcastle upon Tyne Posts: 1,137	one word. cow.

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Oct 6th, 2009, 08:28 AM	#8
Kit Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,026	So many people seem to just want to disapprove on principle. Odd, when as another thread shows, there are plenty of things to genuinely disapprove of! I seem to have a very chilled-out baby who rarely cries so I have never really got used to public melt-downs - when they do happen I get in a complete flap still!

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Oct 6th, 2009, 09:38 AM	#9
nikkip75 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 4,354	i think a lot of "OLDER" people seem to think they have a right to comment on everything!! i was on a bus once when an old fella started going on about how prams shouldnt be allowed on buses! well he got a mouth full from me! and then another bus another day another old fella moaning about a mum being on the bus with a doulble pram and how in his day mums used to walk everywhere with their children and how mums today are lazy getting buses i had to bite my tongue that day!!! im sure they think in their day kids didnt cry

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Oct 6th, 2009, 12:36 PM	#10
leighbaby Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 2,297	grrrrrrr, but 'ha ha' to her (simpson stylee!)

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