Dad is going away? Forces people may know more!

Always&4ever · Jun 8th, 2009, 11:15 AM

Rich is going away from september until march on tour, and although we are not actually "together" at the moment, will it affect the girls with him being gone over xmas and Jasmine's birthday?

Kirstin · Jun 8th, 2009, 14:25 PM

It will affect them because he'll be gone for 6+ months regardless of xmas/bdays.

Always&4ever · Jun 8th, 2009, 14:32 PM

Yes I know that, I just mean because Jasmine will be 2 before he gets back, and we have booked big party's for her and if her dad isn't there, how it will affect her.

mommyof3co · Jun 8th, 2009, 14:35 PM

I'm not sure I fully understand what you mean. Do you mean how is she going to act him not being there? Or when he returns? Because at that age she will forget...ok not fully forget him. But she might have a hard time when he is first gone but then she should get used to it so it won't be a big deal that he's not there...it won't be like something is missing anymore. It will probably be a hard adjustment when he comes back just because of her age then, she won't really remember him fully and she might have some "stranger anxiety", like be scared of him when he first comes back.

Tezzy · Jun 8th, 2009, 16:33 PM

i do think it will affect the kids.. of course it will. but its just something that you will have to deal with on the day.

colin wont be here for ffions 1st birthday on wednesday so i know how you feel

Pyrrhic · Jun 8th, 2009, 19:17 PM

In my experience with forces sprogs on the patch, they have no concept of time at that age. He could be gone a week, or 6 months and the kids are ok about it, and look forward to them coming back.

Tracie87 · Jun 9th, 2009, 04:57 AM

im with raf, my sisters OH is RAF and hes been away alot of xmas's threw the years and they only started really knowing and understanding daddy wasnt here for birthdays or xmas once they hit about 5 or 6. otherwise they were ok about it. didnt disrupt them just said every day daddys gone to get a sun tan and make lots of pics for him.

Kids take very well to situations like this. my sisters OH is away this xmas but the kids are both in there teens now so its alot harder.

babystar · Jun 9th, 2009, 05:01 AM

I don't really remember when my dad went away on tour when i was very very very young. I do remember when I was about 7 or 8 that he went on tour. But very very young I don't remember at all.

I dunno if Jasmine might be a little strange around him when he gets back.

and i agree with tracie...kids do ok with it. It never really affected me my dad going on tour when I do remember him being away. When I got older I understood it was his work and what he had to do.

Tracie87 · Jun 9th, 2009, 05:03 AM

as long as you have pictures round the house and do a routine of every morning and night tell her to go kiss daddys picture goodnight. that way shes still very famillier with his face and when he rings make sure she has a good few minuites to hear his voice that way when he comes home hes not a stranger. it does work

Jun 8th, 2009, 11:15 AM	#1
Always&4ever Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Stoke-on-Trent Posts: 9,507	Dad is going away? Forces people may know more! Rich is going away from september until march on tour, and although we are not actually "together" at the moment, will it affect the girls with him being gone over xmas and Jasmine's birthday?

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Jun 8th, 2009, 14:25 PM	#2
Kirstin Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 4,157	It will affect them because he'll be gone for 6+ months regardless of xmas/bdays.

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Always&4ever Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Stoke-on-Trent Posts: 9,507	Yes I know that, I just mean because Jasmine will be 2 before he gets back, and we have booked big party's for her and if her dad isn't there, how it will affect her.

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Jun 8th, 2009, 14:35 PM	#4
mommyof3co Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Waxahachie, TX Posts: 10,076	I'm not sure I fully understand what you mean. Do you mean how is she going to act him not being there? Or when he returns? Because at that age she will forget...ok not fully forget him. But she might have a hard time when he is first gone but then she should get used to it so it won't be a big deal that he's not there...it won't be like something is missing anymore. It will probably be a hard adjustment when he comes back just because of her age then, she won't really remember him fully and she might have some "stranger anxiety", like be scared of him when he first comes back.

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Tezzy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: North Wales Posts: 11,131	i do think it will affect the kids.. of course it will. but its just something that you will have to deal with on the day. colin wont be here for ffions 1st birthday on wednesday so i know how you feel

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Pyrrhic Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 14,567	In my experience with forces sprogs on the patch, they have no concept of time at that age. He could be gone a week, or 6 months and the kids are ok about it, and look forward to them coming back.

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Jun 9th, 2009, 04:57 AM	#7
Tracie87 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2008 Location: In a pineapple Posts: 10,067	im with raf, my sisters OH is RAF and hes been away alot of xmas's threw the years and they only started really knowing and understanding daddy wasnt here for birthdays or xmas once they hit about 5 or 6. otherwise they were ok about it. didnt disrupt them just said every day daddys gone to get a sun tan and make lots of pics for him. Kids take very well to situations like this. my sisters OH is away this xmas but the kids are both in there teens now so its alot harder.

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Jun 9th, 2009, 05:01 AM	#8
babystar Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 4,737	I don't really remember when my dad went away on tour when i was very very very young. I do remember when I was about 7 or 8 that he went on tour. But very very young I don't remember at all. I dunno if Jasmine might be a little strange around him when he gets back. and i agree with tracie...kids do ok with it. It never really affected me my dad going on tour when I do remember him being away. When I got older I understood it was his work and what he had to do.

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Jun 9th, 2009, 05:03 AM	#9
Tracie87 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2008 Location: In a pineapple Posts: 10,067	as long as you have pictures round the house and do a routine of every morning and night tell her to go kiss daddys picture goodnight. that way shes still very famillier with his face and when he rings make sure she has a good few minuites to hear his voice that way when he comes home hes not a stranger. it does work

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