I have double posted this but really need thoughts:

really want to know other parents view on bathing with parents. I have a daughter who is 6 and she has a bath occassionally with her dad. I have no problem with this at all but since she has been getting older I do have certain problems with it. When they bath, my husband lays down with his legs apart and she sits up in between them and then cleans his body all over (excluding his penis and bum). I really dont like this as there is no bubble bath in the water and, for me, the close proximity of his penis to her when he lays down just makes me uncomfortable. I have asked my husband on numerous occasions to stay sat up when they bath together and then I have no issues at all. We have just had a huge row about this and he has basically said that i am accusing him of abusing her! If this was the case he wouldnt be living in the house, the police would have been called and actually i would probably have killed him by now.....and I certainly wouldnt say that bathing together was fine!!!!

Anyway what i need to know is if I am being unreasonable about this. He says there isnt a man or woman in the world who would agree with me and I am being totally out of order.....please please can you give me your views.

My opinion and it is only an opinion. I think it's about time they bathed on their own.

It could only take your daughter to mention it, innocently, at school or in front of another mum and you could have SS knocking at your door. The traumer that your family would go through then would be worse than arguing whether its right or not.

I don't think you are being unreasonable and if I were uncomfortable about anything in regards to my child I would hope that my partner would support me even if he didn't agree.

hello, i think 6 is too old for sharing baths with dad to be honest-but that's just how i feel.

keely.

i must say, i wouldnt like it, tbh i wouldnt put her in the bath with her dad now...i just dont like the idea

x

Hmmm i think 6 is a bit too old to be bathing with a parent, having said that how many people bath their children together? I know i used to bath with my little brother until i was about 5.

They "know" too much at that age and ask to many questions which would make me uncomfortable.

agreed... she is at a curious... but innocent age where she will be starting to talk about things.

Thank you for your responses. This isnt about right or wrong, but I have to say I am relieved that I am not the olnly one who isnt happy about it and I am not out of order for not wanting them to bath together. I have just been made to feel so bad about it and accused of so many different things because I said i wasnt happy that I was thinking maybe he could be right. I just wanted him to repect my feelings on the subject, instead he says I am accusing him of child abuse! To be honest I am a bit of a wreck!

No way in hell would I have my kids bathing with me or even dad at that age.

On another note, my kids stopped bathing together about a year ago. It was more my daughter wanting to have her own bath by herself, and, granted, she was 6 and was starting to get modest. Jayden wasn't too happy at first as he loved playing with Amanda with their toys in the bathtub.

But now he's getting some modesty too.

To be honest, I've never thought about it, but I think it would make me quite uncomfortable!

If there are any men out there I would really appreciate their opinions on this too!!
xxx