wannabmum
Feb 21st, 2008, 12:20 PM
Hi,
Just thought I would update u all we spoke to dd last weekend as I said before we have to wait for her to start conversations with us as when she used to go bk to her mums she would get 100 questions and so if u start her she just clams up, She was talking to me n oh how she wasn't happy at her mums and because of other sibling etc and we just explained to her that is wasn't the other childs fault and she shouldn't blame the other child we then dropped in that we will be having bigger family one day and that doesn't mean we will love her any less etc she tried to say she knew that would happen and she was ok with it but we could tell by her face she really wasn't she was taken aback and looked close to tears, I then explained to her that I love her as if she was my own and that that will never change and also told her if anything scares her or even makes her angry about it just to talk to us we won't be angry with her but it means we can try and help her feel better about it, she just said I'm ok, I then said but u look upset u can talk to us she said she was just tired but it wasn't that. I guess she's just not ready to talk yet she will in her own time eaither to us or oh mum, then hopefully we can put her mind at reat and by the time I get preg maybe it can be something she can look forward to rather than dread.
xxx
Just thought I would update u all we spoke to dd last weekend as I said before we have to wait for her to start conversations with us as when she used to go bk to her mums she would get 100 questions and so if u start her she just clams up, She was talking to me n oh how she wasn't happy at her mums and because of other sibling etc and we just explained to her that is wasn't the other childs fault and she shouldn't blame the other child we then dropped in that we will be having bigger family one day and that doesn't mean we will love her any less etc she tried to say she knew that would happen and she was ok with it but we could tell by her face she really wasn't she was taken aback and looked close to tears, I then explained to her that I love her as if she was my own and that that will never change and also told her if anything scares her or even makes her angry about it just to talk to us we won't be angry with her but it means we can try and help her feel better about it, she just said I'm ok, I then said but u look upset u can talk to us she said she was just tired but it wasn't that. I guess she's just not ready to talk yet she will in her own time eaither to us or oh mum, then hopefully we can put her mind at reat and by the time I get preg maybe it can be something she can look forward to rather than dread.
xxx